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Shining Sun
Dec 03, 2022
In General Discussion
Hey everybody! So I’ve been feeling really weird lately. Like I’m in a space where is there is falling apart but also opening up to all fall together. I’ve spoke with some other moms who says they have been experiencing the same! So I’m not sure what’s going on in the big arena of life but I know I’m not in this alone! I have to give myself grace when things don’t go as planned. Most importantly we all have to remember that transition is temporary. Just like being pregnant or going to high school, those experiences were uncomfortable yes. But, they gave us the ability to level up to the next phase of life. Cheers to transition!
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Nov 05, 2022
In General Discussion
So I’m a single mom, but you know that already. Lately I’ve hit one of those really overwhelming periods of life. You know the ones where it feels like everything is falling apart and nothing is falling in place? Yeah one of those. What’s interesting is how parenthood plays such a huge role during these moments. While having two additional people to be responsible for of course makes the load even heavier. It’s also the weight of that responsibility of these little people that helps you hold it all together. Why? Because they need you and have nobody else that can be mommy. I‘m here to encourage you. When you hit a rough patch. You’re going to make it through and those little people that call you mommy are going to remind you of just how amazing you are. I mean you fu*king created humans.
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Oct 17, 2022
In General Discussion
Becoming a parent is a forever life changing moment. You transition from living your life only for you, to becoming responsible for a whole nother human! All of your actions and behaviors now effect not only you, but them too. During this transition and even years later it becomes difficult to be true to who you are. Oftentimes this occurs because you forgot who you are. Don’t lose yourself. Start doing the things you love again. You enjoy painting but stopped because you’re afraid of your toddlers being in your stuff? Start painting at bedtime or nap time. If you’re super brave like me, set them up a kid appropriate painting station on the floor while you paint at the table. You used to like to dance? Move that couch and get your groove on. And let kids join in too. Just remember that you’re more than just a mom!
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Oct 14, 2022
In General Discussion
Y’all it’s 3am and I’m bout to wash these dishes… again! And I was thinking, it’s no way to win with this whole keeping everybody fed stuff. If you cook all the meals in the house, you end up with a ton of dishes. If you eat out, you spend a ton of money. If you do both you spend hella money and still got dishes. I’m annoyed but Ima do it. Who else will if I don’t? Do single people be out here with one plate, one glass and one fork in the sink? I’d never know lol. Let’s check back on that in 16 years or so. Hopefully it’s two plates even when the kids leave. My husband should find me by then… right? I’m ranting… talk to y’all later. Don’t forget, you got this shit!
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Oct 13, 2022
In General Discussion
Hey y’all! So yesterday my kids were being kids right? Then I realized my oldest face was breaking out, he hadn’t been washing it correctly. So I scrubbed and moisturized him back right. The baby was watching so I did his too. While we were there I did my face too. As I proceeded to clean their ears it hit me. Like these little boys really rely on me for everything that they can’t do theirselves. And as overwhelming as it may get at times, it’s a beautiful thing. They know no matter what their problem is mommy will fix it. And that’s probably why being a mom is so hard, what if I can’t fix their problems one day? Will that mean I failed them? But, the unconditional trust and love my children put into me is unmatched and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. So here I am keeping 30 fingernails and 30 toenails clean.
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Oct 12, 2022
In General Discussion
Today I was reflecting on how sometimes that I get so worked up emotionally that I just STOP. Doesn‘t matter if I was cleaning, working or reading. Once I experience an emotional moment that makes me sad or angry, I don’t want to do anything else. BUTTTTT, I must admit that that isn‘t a productive way to live. I’ve been teaching myself to just live through those moments. By slowing down my productivity I’m pushing myself further back. By thinking of all the things I could have done differently in the past, I’m pulling myself away from the future ahead of me. I don’t want to do that anymore. So I release how I’m feeling in the moment and I keep it moving. Which is not always pretty. I literally be over here crying while folding laundry. But, the laundry is being done and I’m actively moving through whatever has me in my feelings. I encourage you to stop letting your emotions lead your day, you got shit to do!
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Oct 12, 2022
In General Discussion
Y’all if y’all got kids y’all already know that parenting is no joke! It’s draining as hell. You get no time to yourself. You struggle to get anything done. And soon as you do accomplish anything there’s a new pile of laundry AND dishes waiting for you!! I want to encourage you though. You have survived everyday before this and you will continue to survive everyday after this one. When you need a break, take someone you trust up on their offer to “watch the kids when you need a break.” If you can’t do that get yourself in a few minutes alone. That can be in the bathroom or on the porch. Put the kids somewhere safe and go. If you have a baby monitor even better, maybe you can get in 10 minutes before they get crazy. There are three times in the day that I generally get in these ”Mommy Moments” 1) When Kali naps (pray for me y’all he been fighting the nap lately… he didn’t nap today AT ALL!) 2) After bedtime. I take an entire hour most days and I just do me. I take a long shower. I read. Scroll IG or whatever I feel like doing. 3) When I’m stressed. When I notice that I’m on edge and yelling a lot, I pull myself to the side. Like “ay yo tighten up.” They are just kids and they aren’t trying to annoy you. I do some deep breathes, affirm myself with positive affirmations, and whatever else I need to do to re-regulate my emotions! Make sure you prioritize your Mommy Moments to avoid the buildup that makes you feel overwhelmed and incapable!
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Sonshine Management
Shining Sun
Oct 10, 2022
In Questions & Answers
Thank you soooooo much for coming to hang out with us! I would love to know what motivated you to join us! I’ll share a bit about why I started this community. As far back as I can remember I’ve always struggled with anxiety. Since becoming a mom I also now struggle with waves of depression. Recently, I went through a really dark depression. I was struggling to even wake up with my toddler. My house was getting messier by the day and I wasn’t bringing in a dollar of income due to my lack of hustle. During this time, I felt alone. My sister is a great soundboard but sometimes I don’t want to just dump my shit on her, she’s a mom of three with her own stuff going on! I started sharing my struggle on TikTok as I cleaned and decluttered after the depression. So many women reached out saying they felt the same way. So, I created us a safe space. I welcome you to come here whenever you need love, positivity or help!
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